I used to be way too verbose in my emails and messages. I thought giving people all the context would help them make better decisions or reply faster.
But I learned the hard way ā in trying to be ācomprehensive,ā I was actually confusing people. The most common response Iād get?
āWhat exactly do you need from me?ā
Thatās when it hit me: less is more. When you write less, you get more direct answers.
And when you make just one clear ask, youāre much more likely to get a response that moves things forward.
If you put too much in one message, people pick and choose what they want to respond toāand often leave out the part you really needed.
Thatās what weāre diving into today.
Enjoy,
ā Aderson
Ever sent a message or email that made total sense to youābut when you got the reply, it was clear the other person had no idea what you meant?
It happens a lot, especially in the tech world where we try to be āefficientā and stuff multiple ideas, questions, or asks into one single message. The result? Confusion, delay, and way too many Slack messages that start with:
āSorry, just to clarify⦠what exactly do you need from me?ā
The solution? The Rule of One. One message = one purpose. Period.
The 3 Things Youāll Take Away Today:
š One Message, One Goal
š Make the āAskā Obvious
š Repeat the Rule Until It Becomes Natural
š One Message, One Goal
This is the heart of the Rule of One. Donāt try to explain five things, solve three problems, and ask for two decisions all in one email or Slack thread. It overwhelms the reader and guarantees at least one thing will get missed.
Instead, pause before you send and ask yourself:
āWhat is the ONE thing I want them to take away from this?ā
If thereās more than one thing, split it. Two emails. Two messages. Two sections clearly labeled. Clarity beats efficiency every time.
Bonus tip: Even in documentation or reports, use headings to isolate ONE topic at a time. Donāt let it all blur together.
š Make the āAskā Obvious
Ever received an email and thought, āThis is interesting⦠but what am I supposed to do?ā Thatās a red flag.
Whether youāre writing to a manager, a teammate, or even a customer, they need to know exactly:
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What youāre saying
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What youāre asking for
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What you want next
Put your ask at the top or bottom in bold (if possible), or signal it clearly with phrases like:
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āWhat Iām looking for isā¦ā
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āCan you confirmā¦?ā
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āNext step I need from youā¦ā
Donāt make people dig. Respect their time and show you value your own message.
š Repeat the Rule Until It Becomes Natural
At first, using the Rule of One might feel a bit extra. Like youāre sending too many messages. Or being too simplistic.
But hereās the reality: people love when your communication is clean, clear, and actionable.
Over time, it becomes second nature. Youāll find yourself:
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Catching yourself before hitting send
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Breaking long updates into smaller, clearer chunks
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Becoming someone people actually look forward to hearing from (seriously!)
Clarity builds trust. And trust builds influence.
šļøFinal Thoughts
When everything feels important, nothing stands out. Thatās why the Rule of One is so powerful. One reader. One message. One goal.
If youāre tired of being misunderstood, skipped over, or getting half-baked replies to your emailsāitās probably not your ideas that need changing. Itās your delivery.
Start small. Take your next email or message and trim it down to one clear ask. One takeaway. Watch how much smoother things go when youāre not trying to say everything at once.
Less chaos. More clarity.
Progress, not perfection. Always.
āClarity comes not when you add more, but when you remove whatās not needed.ā ā James Clear
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